We have all been in many situations where someone else’s negative words or actions completely shut us down and made us feel like complete crap. We can’t control what other people do or say but we can certainly change the way we react to them! Growing up I gave other people’s actions and opinions towards me a lot more power than my own. I still sometimes struggle with letting others affect my self esteem and quite honestly, who doesn’t at some moments? But as I am getting older I am realizing that other people’s opinions of me are none of my business. As the Dali Lama once said, “Don’t let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.” One thing that has really helped me with this is reminding myself that when someone is unkind, mean, or judgmental towards you it has more to do with them than you. They are most likely dealing with their own hang ups and their negative behavior is a result of that. Just take this catchy saying for example. What Susie says of Sally says more of Susie than of Sally.
Hope some of this can be helpful the next time you find yourself lettin’ dem haters get to yah!